The Check-In.

Our youngest, who is thirteen months, just learned how to say “no”. It’s in quotes because she is not actually saying the word “no”, but she is shaking her head “no”. Even more interesting, she’s not shaking her head “no” when she doesn’t like something or she’s upset; rather, it happens as if she’s asking a question.

Here’s an example: this morning she was in the kitchen with me going through the “parts box” that was left by IKEA since there are still things-to-do in our still unfinished (but closer to being finished) kitchen. She pulled out a bag of hinges and started to put them towards her mouth. I was watching her. She looked at me, with hinges almost in her mouth and shook her head, eyebrows raised, as if to say “this is a no-no, right, Mommy?” I shook my head “no” and answered her, “that’s right, Charley, no-no.” She put the bag down. This scenario has happened repeatedly in the past week or so since she has learned to shake her head “no”.

She was checking in.

Checking in with me, asking for guidance, looking for boundaries, instruction, or affirmation (or at least this is my explanation of it…)

The funny thing is, she has done this “checking in” on some level ever since she was a newbie. She still is cautious of new faces, but as a younger infant, she was very aware of new people and new surroundings. I recall vividly, watching her size somebody up for the first time, looking at their face, then cutting her eyes back to my face, and then back to the new face. She did this from a very young age. I could see in her eyes she was saying “…is this okay, Mommy?” It was fascinating to watch.

This morning after our episode with the hinge bag, a thought hit me, and it’s stuck with me all day – do I “check in” regularly with the important people in my life?

Yikes; probably not nearly as much as I should.

What if I made a point of asking my Savior, my Husband, my girls, my family and my friends how I was really (and I mean really) “doing” as a servant, a wife, a Mom, a daughter and a friend? Would I even want to hear the answers? Would my actions change based upon the answers I received?

Life lessons from a thirteen month old – simply amazing. Becoming a Mom, I was (am) completely unprepared for the numerous beautiful, raw, honest, simple lessons my girls would be teaching me in this life.

But Praise God for those lessons.

Lord, keep me humble and aware enough to always be open to these unexpected lessons.

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What We’ve Learned (so far) About Traveling Internationally With Kiddos.

So I’ve already written about our experience with an international move with little ones and what worked (or didn’t) for us. We’ve ventured out into Europe three times so far since we’ve been here, and after each one (frequently during!), hubby and I “debrief” about what went wrong or right. Since it’s summer, there are lots of great posts out there about traveling with kids (like this one with great ideas, particularly if you’re a family with multiple kiddos!). I doubt mine will rank up there with some of the best or most practical ideas/thoughts, but I wanted to share what we’ve learned so far.

On our trip to Prague:

-Don’t Bank on Movies for Road Trip Entertainment. Watching movies on the iPad makes our oldest a bit queasy (bummer!).
-“I spy” is an EXCELLENT Car/Road Trip Game. It’s also great for long walks, waiting in line, waiting in restaurants, etc.
-Ice Cream Rocks. Ice cream (“Eis” in German) is abundant in Europe, super cheap and can come in kid-sized portions just perfect for occupying little ones’ hands, attention and bellies.
-Never Underestimate the Power of GOOD Walking Shoes. I have pretty much lived in mine since we moved here as the girls and I probably walk close to two miles daily, sometimes more if it’s nice weather out.

On our trip to Austria, Castle Neuschwanstein and Zugspitze (the highest summit in the German part of the Alps):

-Don’t Forget About a Change of Shoes If Your Activities Dictate. Snow and ice + tennis shoes and socks = cold, wet feet. It’s impossible to keep a toddler away from snow and ice, so either bring back up shoes/socks, or better yet, appropriate boots. We did remember to bring a change of socks, but we had to let our oldest’s shoes dry out on the balcony that evening.
-Layers Are Good. Particularly if your trip includes a visit to different altitudes (either up to a peak/summit or down to caves, salt mines or mine shafts) or differing weather, layers are the way to go.
-Separate Space for Mom and Dad. Finding a separate “space” for Mom and Dad in the hotel room makes things much more enjoyable. This could be an adjoining room, a separate sleeping space (in our case in Austria, it was an “alcove” separate by floor-length curtains), or even a balcony with a place to sit and talk quietly. We do an early bedtime (7ish) for our girls and we quickly realized that traditional hotel rooms would present a problem for hubby and I unless we wanted to go to sleep with the girls at 7pm (tempting, some days..). It isn’t always possible to find a separate space, but we’ve found that Bed and Breakfasts tend to be most accommodating (many have “family rooms”) in this respect, and more affordable than if you purchased either a suite or two rooms in a hotel. I’ve had to email or ask the bed and breakfasts directly and in all cases so far, they have been extremely accommodating and willing to help if they can.
-A Travel Backpack is a Must. I say “travel” because the style is smaller, has more “compartments” and has straps and snaps in places to allow you to adjust and fit more – kind of like a small hiking backpack. This allowed us to eliminate my separate bag and gave a place to store and carry our larger digital camera (when we wanted to take it).
-Share Suitcases. Packing in one suitcase (if you can!) for everyone makes life a lot easier (can you tell we’re into minimizing bags??)
-Use Free Travel Websites. Trip Advisor is an excellent resource for things to do as well as hotel recommendations. Just type in a city/region and go!

On our trip to Brussels & Bruges, Belgium and Luxembourg:

-Get Your Driving In Early. If you’re road-tripping, getting up early in the AM allows you to get the driving out of the way and still have a day to explore your destination AND allows your kids can sleep for a larger portion of the trip. This is all around great. This also would work late evening driving, but it works better for us to do it early in the morning.
-Pay Early. At restaurants, pay for your meal as soon as you can (i.e. before you’re finished eating) so you can leave as soon as the kids are finished. This avoids the boredom and wiggly-ness that can quickly set in when you’re not-so-patiently waiting for your bill while your kids run a muck.
-Look for Hotels with Black-Out Curtains and Quiet Location. Black-out curtains (particularly here in Europe in the summer when it stays light until 10pm or later) and a quiet place for sleeping = happy kids who fall asleep easily which therefore = happy Mom and Dad (in our case, we learned this the hard way in Brussels…)
-Don’t Underestimate the Information from Commercialized Tour Guides. Rick Steves is a great “starting point” for travel inspiration, must-dos and highlights. Yes, I know, a bit cheesy but the free stuff that’s on his website have been some of the first places I’ve looked when figuring out our “itinerary”. Good suggestions on local places to eat, etc. as well.
-Be Realistic With Your “Must-Sees”. As much as we (err, I) wanted to visit the Brussels art museum that contained all the ancient Flemish art, this didn’t really pan out. Art museums are tough when you have a toddler-ized attention span. Visiting parks, statues, fancy buildings, bell towers, castles, fountains, etc. are all better more kid-friendly options. As are many “must-eats” (this trip featured Belgian waffles, chocolates and, mussels and french fries – and yes, our two and half year old LOVED them!) I am determined, however, to figure out how to make it into some art museums. Maybe we’ll try a massive game of I-Spy ;)
-Try to Stay as Flexible As You Can. Since we live in Europe right now, we (so far) have been driving everywhere. This has allowed us some flexibility with our travel plans. For example, on this trip, we had not booked a place to stay for our last evening of the trip. This turned out to be a blessing because we changed our plans and headed back a day early (see above where we learned about sleeping difficulty the hard way…) so we could have one day of total rest before starting the next week. Of course, if you’re flying to your destination, you can’t be quite as flexible.

What Have You Learned From Traveling With Kids?

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Searching for a Cure for a Sweet Tooth.


My family and I are admitted “rookies” when it comes to the real food movement. In fact, it all started less than ayear ago when our curiousity was peaked while watching Food Inc. on a whim when my husband and I could find nothing else appealing on NetFlix on a random Friday night. We’ve been pretty “healthy” eaters for quite a while, but Food Inc. really shocked and surprised us.

I was intrigued. I started reading and researching. Around that same time, I was considering starting our youngest daughter on solids, and while I planned to make all her baby food (something I really enjoyed doing when our oldest was an infant), I was curious about conventional wisdom of “first foods” and whether I should be feeding her something different than was reccomended by the masses. Coincidentally, this is also when I found Modern Alternative Mama and saw Kate’s wonderful, informative e-books.

I’m over at Modern Alternative Mama today. Click here to read the entire post…

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Right Where He Wants Me.

Our past two weeks have been filled with excitement and busyness. We left our temporary accommodations (hooray!), received our shipments from the states (double hooray!) and moved into our permanent digs here in Nuremberg (triple hooray!). Busy, busy. We’re finally getting to what I might-almost-maybe-be-able to call “getting settled”. It is just shy of two months of our new life in Germany, and, although incredibly exciting in so many ways, it certainly has been filled with its own set of frustrations and major adjustments. I know those of you who have experienced a move abroad or a major move domestically, can empathize. Here’s a glimpse in no particular order (hubby keeps saying we need to write some of these things down so we can laugh at them later, so, here you go, babe!):

-our youngest daughter’s crib screws are still MIA after unpacking all the boxes so she is still sleeping in her pack n’ play
-our IKEA kitchen is still only half-installed after spending three back-to-back weekends of our time with the only English-speaking kitchen-planner, dealing with customer service (in broken English/German) regarding a delivery and installation date, finally getting a delivery and installation date only to have delivery but no installation, finally getting installation only for it to take 2 whole days and still not be finished…
-I lost my wallet (but later found it) so we cancelled both my US and German debit cards leaving me with no access to $$ other than our cash, only to have hubby’s German debit card be de-magnetized and his US card to be determined “compromised” by our US bank so it was cancelled thus leaving us BOTH without access to $$
-getting caught in a major German rainstorm with two kids, with loaned umbrellas from a gracious friend (thanks, Cristina!), all of which probably could have been avoided (at least the getting completely soaked with two fussy kids part) had we had a car, which we still don’t yet…

On top of these things (and I spared you a laundry list of other frustrations/adjustments), I’m personally adjusting from life as a working-away-from-home Mom to a working-at-home Mom. Although I would not trade this time in my life and this time with my family for anything, I am embarassed to admit that I think I romanticized things a bit. I thought both my girls would just love having Mommy around all the time. And, while I think they do enjoy the extra Mommy-time, I know my oldest for one, has many periods (days??) when she is sick of Mommy and really just wants to be with her friends. Amazing how a 2 1/2 year old can humble you, isn’t it?

Hubby and I had a great talk the other night when we were “decompressing” from the day’s frustrations. We talked about how as difficult as some of this experience (or things about it) has been, this is, without a doubt, where I know we are supposed to be. God has placed us here and has handpicked this opportunity for us. He intimately knows what I need, what my husband needs, and what our girls need. And, of course, recognizes that those needs my not necessarily line up with our wants or desires.

I’ve been praying for relief from our frustrations and seeming setbacks. I keep wondering, asking, why we were repeatedly being hit with annoyance/frustration/setback after annoyance/frustration/setback? Paul’s convicting words came to mind – My grace is enough; it’s all you need. My strength comes into its own in your weakness. I realized that He knows that things maybe need to be a bit (errr…really) uncomfortable so that we can become fully reliant on Him.

Fully weakened.

Fully pliable.

I’ve realized through all of this that I’m right where He wants me – frustrations, adjustments, idealized view of being at home, included. Hubby and my sweet girls are right where He wants them too, for their own specific reasons.

Does this mean our issues have ended? No, of course not (in fact, as I write this, behind me still is a half-finished kitchen with no determined completion date in sight…). But, I do think I have a renewed perspective on things that seems to make it all manageable.

How have you been shown you’re right where He wants you?

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A Birthday Acrostic.

My baby girl is one today; what an amazing year her first year of life has been. She brings a light and joy to our lives in all her own way. Being an only child myself, I have so loved watching my girls develop their sisterly bond, to see their similarities and their differences. A quick post today that is admittedly indulgent and just for my sweet baby girl.

C is for charisma, something she has already at just one year.
H is for heaven sent. Simple as that.
A is for angelic, the contours and beautiful design of her face.
R is for Reagan, her big sis, the one who can REALLY make her laugh.
L is for my littlest lovebug, my Charley bug.
O is for outgoing, just like her Mama.
T is for tenacious, when she’s into something, she’s really into it.
T is for tip-toes as she is learning to be steady on her perfect little feet.
E is for eyelashes, long, luxurious ones that make even her Mama jealous.

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